Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Homeless...kind of.

I moved into the condo the Husband and I are currently living in over 9 years ago. It's a small, 2-bedroom, 2-bathroom apartment style condo on the 2nd floor overlooking a beautiful courtyard. It was a great first place for a young women such as myself 9 years ago. While I've mostly enjoyed living there, especially the first 7 years, the last few years have become quite difficult due to overbearing and controlling board members and nosey neighbors. I made the decision to put it up for sale over 3 years ago, a few months after being let go from my job. I met my husband a few months later and a few months after that, we were living together. Since then, we have encountered problem after problem with our association and board members. I do not - and cannot - go into detail as it only fuels my anger and the best way to deal with it is to just not dwell on it. All I can say is that the three members of our board are power hungry and want to be in control of every little thing we do. I am not exaggerating when I say this, but it's gotten to the point where the Husband and I have decided we can't even consider having a baby in our current home, for fear of receiving letters and being fined when our baby has a bad night and is up late, crying and fussing.

This last year, we've been living quietly and keeping to ourselves, but still seem to receive letter after letter from the board, accusing us of one thing or another. Some accussations were way over exaggerated and some were completely false in their entirety. Either way, the Husband and I kept to ourselves and tried to stay out of the way. There were times when my husband tried to talk to the President of our board and he was basically shoved aside, being told "I don't have to talk to you" and "I am not going to tell you anything." After episodes like that, I decided I wouldn't talk to our President at all anymore, in any way. I deal stricly with our management company, even for the smallest question or issue. If I ever saw the president (or any board member) outside our condo, I didn't look at her and I didn't acknowledge her. I felt bad about it, but I didn't trust myself not to be provoked or riled up by her and I never wanted to do or say anything bad. So I kept to myself. The Husband went back and forth, sometimes saying hello, but mostly also ignoring her.

One day very recently, the Husband and I were walking into the building and she, the President, was walking out. We met in the foyer, between the 2 doors into our building, and as we were passing her, we heard "Hi guys!" in a overly nice voice. I kept doing what I had been doing and ignored her. The Husband didn't say a word either. As the door into the building shut, we heard her exclaim "RUDE!!!" I was completely shocked! What does she expect? She is constantly accusing us of things we didn't do and trying to fine us. We have to keep protecting ourselves from you, so why would we do anything BUT ignore you?!? It was so shocking to us, that after the Husband came in from letting Samson (our Yorkie) out, he said to me "I want to go knock on her door and tell her exactly why we ignore her." All I could say was "Even if you did, she wouldn't get it." Her "RUDE!" comment has bugged me every day since then. Am I a bad neighbor? Am I being too mean? AM I RUDE?!?!

A few days later, we got an offer on the condo. I pretty much hyperventilated on the phone while telling my husband, I was so happy. We should be out by June 15th, 2010.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Hello Blog World!

I have been following many, many blogs for quite some time now. I've always loved to read about the daily life of other women out there, going through the same things I am - life, love and the happily every after. I love to write, I love to talk and I love to make people laugh, so I hope I can do all that (and maybe even more) in this blog. I have no idea if anyone will EVER read this, but I really hope this becomes a great place for me to come and chat about all the goings on in our life.